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3 Tips To Be A Boss Ass Bitch

September 9, 2017

Every person on this planet has a challenge they are going through at this moment. Some people are stressed, injured, angry, lonely, in debt, in pain, or going through a time where they feel stuck. We have all been here at some point or other in our lives. All that is being experienced is for a bigger purpose. There is meaning in suffering, in accepting and overcoming our own personal challenges. You are the answer to your prayers. You are your greatest teacher. You may not be able to change your circumstance, but you can change how you react to it. Your choices and attitude are far more important than you may believe. Wake up and stop talking about change. Begin to make steps to actually shift from where you are now, to where you would like to be. 

 

1. Stop Talking Shit About Yourself

 

 

Complaining, gossiping, and down grading your self worth (and others self worth), is not helping you. You words are more powerful than you know. Some of the hurtful comments you say about yourself you would NEVER say to or about a friend. Your body and mind respond to those low vibrational frequencies with more doubt, frustration, and dismay. If you don't know where to start, try looking into a mirror and talking to yourself. I know you have heard it before, but it is seriously an exercise that can begin to shift things. Look into your eyes, (laugh a bit so you can get over that first awkward moment haha) and say positive affirmations that feel good. 

"I accept who I am"

"I forgive myself for my mistakes"

"I love myself unconditionally"

"It is safe to be myself"

"I am the only authority in my life"

 

(I encourage you to write/speak your own affirmations, but if you need guidance feel free to message me and I will intuitively create one for you. Or you can always ask that wizard called Google!)

Try smiling as you speak and truly mean what you say. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but continue this exercise each morning for a week and you will start to see a positive change. 

Be impeccable with your word.

 

 

2. Be a Mocking Jay

 

 

If you haven't already seen it, watch the Ted Talk by Amy Cuddy titled "Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are." She discusses how our body language influences our brain and emotions. We already know that our nonverbal behavior (body language) governs how other people think and feel about us, but her research went further to show that our body language changes how we think and feel about ourselves! The hormone testosterone and cortisol have large effects on our ability to feel powerful and set ourselves up for success or failure. She studied changes in the levels of participants while they stood in power poses (wonder women pose, outstretched arm pose, etc) and low power poses (introverted, small body language) for two minutes before an interview. She found that standing in high power confident poses resulted in elevations in testosterone, decreases in the stress hormone cortisol, and increased feelings of power. Where as low power poses experienced the opposite and made it difficult for the person to perform their best. “Our bodies change our minds…and our minds change our behavior…and our behavior changes our outcomes” I LOVE her message of faking it till you make it. When we pretend to feel powerful, then we begin to actually feel powerful. As you continue to try your best and believe in yourself, then one day you will get there. Towards the end of her Ted Talk, her phrase turned into “Fake it till you become it.”

Why am I bringing this up? Well this is definitely a tool to become a boss ass bitch! Aka more confident, powerful, and a better version of you. Standing in a power pose like Wonder Woman or Katniss Everdeen from Hunger Games for just two minutes will help get your brain/body connection more in sync. It's a tool not only for your next job interview, before you get up to sing karaoke, or your next big test, but also to improve your day to day life and conversations. Smile more, pull your shoulders back, lift your arms and feel like you just won at life, and I promise… before you know it you'll be more happy, confident, and set yourself up for the best possible outcome. Small shifts can lead to big changes. All it takes is two minutes.

 

3. Awaken Your Mind

 

 Photo by Lin Pernille  

 

When was the last time you read a book for fun? Or went to a seminar you knew little to nothing about? When was the last time you stepped out of the comfortability of your home?

 

I encourage you to switch it up and awaken your mind! You can learn so much when you allow yourself to be vulnerable. Brene Brown author of Darling Greatly defines vulnerability as "Uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure... Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability, and authenticity." It takes courage to put yourself out there. To do something new you have never done before. And let me tell you, the pay off feels good! Connecting with others helps us to remember our humanity. These moments sometimes happen on their own. Maybe you saw an interesting video on Facebook and shared it, noticed an interesting bumper sticker on someones car, or overheard people talking about a pitaya bowl and decided to look it up because you've never tried it. Curiosity is cool, but how about taking a step further. Start a conversation with the person next to you in line. Go on the App Meetup and find local people who are having a group meeting/hangout in a subject you're interest in. Call an old friend. Share your talent in public. Anything that helps you step out of your normal day to day life. 

 

 

Lets Wrap It Up

 

Find peace in knowing you are not alone. Everyone is working on their own evolution. We are continuously growing and changing, and increasing our courage. You are a badass soul! Start living the life you want NOW. Begin with these steps

1. Stop Talking Shit About Yourself

    -Be kind to yourself, love yourself 

    -Find or create an affirmation that speaks to you

2. Be a Mocking Jay

   -Raise your frequency and set yourself up for success by changing your body language 

   -Believe in yourself and fake it till you become it

3. Awaken Your Mind

   -Try something new

   -Get out of your comfort zone and connect with some local humans 

 

 

 

 

 

Empower yourself and own it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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